So happy Teddy has his cousins!I am in a phase of life that is every easy for me to FEEL Thankful and Grateful and Blessed. That hard journey is still very fresh on my mind. It's there every time someone asks if we're going to have another baby (which they do ALL.THE.TIME). It's there like a relative to PTSD telling me I don't think I could ever go through the "trying" again regardless of whether I could handle the lack of sleep starting all over with a newborn. I know this is totally rambly but I just hope when you see me share my happy moments with my little guy that you know that I KNOW how crazy blessed I am and I seriously appreciate it so much. Even when I'm whining about him endlessly trying to pick my moles or not sleeping, I love him so crazy much. this shirt from Cents of Style I feel like it really captured this niggling in the back of my head and heart. This crazy appreciation for where I have been and where I am now. Today for their Fashion Friday they are giving away one of these cute shirts for FREE with every order of $25 or more. I thought it would be fun to share what YOU are thankful for. I honestly would love you to leave a comment with your own story so I can read it.
First let me say, that I've been settling with a poorly fitting bra for much of this last year. When I stopped nursing I was so excited to finally be back in a real bra. I got a few that fit great but even though I had waited for my boobs to adjust post nursing they changed again and let's face it bra shopping on your own (let alone with a toddler) is so not fun so it hasn't happened.
So when I discovered the RealFit® bra by Jockey, I was intrigued. It’s an at home bra fitting system, plus a great time-saving idea for post nursing bra shopping since your size changes so often (would be great post breastfeeding or weight loss). Last week I tried this at home- the Jockey RealFit® Kit and I'm hooked. The sizing fit kit includes a bunch of cups and a special measuring tape.The cups are way more varied than traditional bra sizes because one size definitely doesn't fit all! To find your perfect fit, you just lean over into the cups and stand up and see which cup fits you best. For me, one cup was clearly the correct one. See below for an exclusive code for $10 off for my readers!
Then you wrap the measuring tape around where your bra band is and wherever the color block overlaps that is your band size. I was kind of in the middle of the 34 when I measured so I ordered both the 34 and 36 since they do free returns and exchanges (even if you have worn or washed the bra).
I was pleasantly surprised at how well the 4/36 bras fit me. I got two different styles with their patented comfort wire but they do have wire-free styles for those who prefer that. The RealFit® Kit costs $19.95 but then you get a $20 discount when you order a bra so it's pretty much free since you wouldn't really just get the fitting kit you know. Plus they are offering my readers $10 off the RealFit® Kit with the code RAEGUN10* so it's an even better deal. It feels silly to be as excited as I am about new bras but having ones that finally fit and not having to try on bras with an impatient 2 year-old in tow is kinda magical. Mom magical but still ;)
I really like the RealFit® bras by Jockey but what I'm really excited about is that now that I have the kit I can reuse it because after whining to my mom friends about my post-nursing bra situation they said their sizes changed a lot the first couple years after nursing. Fun right? Well I guess I don't have to feel like I can't lose weight having to deal with an annoying bra fitting experience...because you know that's really what was the biggest thing stopping me from shedding those pounds ;)
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My very most popular post is my list of Tips and Tricks People Forget to Tell New Moms. So I'm super excited to bring you even more things I've learned the hard way that people should tell first time moms and dads! Sydney's article yesterday on making baby's bed safe for sleep. I'm teaming up with Owlet to share some safety (and otherwise helpful) tips for first time parents as well as a huge giveaway (scroll down for details). #ad #spon After that first post of things no one tells new moms I had lots of readers share the other things they wish someone had told them and in my own daily life I kept finding myself thinking I should have put this on the list. So in no particular order here are More helpful tidbits I wish someone had told me as a new mom.
1. EVERYTHING is a PhaseI didn't get this when I wrote my first list. I was so stressed about sleep. I wasn't getting any of it and once we figured out night time sleep I was stressed that Teddy wasn't napping on his own. But since then I've realized that IT IS ALL A PHASE. Like really. They grow up so fast and the things we're tempted to agonize about will be over before long. Why was I so concerned about holding my baby for nap? My days of holding a baby (or kid now) who will let me hold him are numbered. When they are babies and toddlers things change so fast. You can stress about figuring stuff out and get things down but soon after you do, things will be completely different so honestly try not to stress that much.
(not a sticker but this was about the age when I tried the "sticker fun")
2. Babies Eat StickersDid you know this? Umm yeah because they do. When Teddy was smaller I thought he'd have fun with stickers so I stuck a few on him only to find him trying to shove them into his mouth. I relayed this experience to my girlfriends thinking it was so silly and they said "oh yeah they do that". What!? That's like a thing? It would have been nice for someone to warn me. I was totally paying attention so Teddy wasn't in any real danger since I snatched them away before he got them in his mouth. But still that is kind of dangerous. I wish someone had mentioned it to me before.
3. Balloons are Really Dangerous for BabiesSpeaking of trying to eat things. Let's talk about balloons. For the record I knew this one but I've been shocked at the number of people I've met who don't know that balloons are very dangerous to babies and toddlers or who tried to give my baby a balloon but not watch him with it or were about to let him try and chew on one. Not counting food, balloons are the most common cause of choking death in babies. The flimsy latex contours to the airway and blocks it off. Don't let babies have balloon unless you can give them 100% of your attention. And by all means do not let them put balloons (inflated or deflated whether waiting to be blown up or popped) in their mouths. Since most babies put everything in their mouths I vote to keep them completely away from their faces and in your own hands just to be on the safe side.
4. Try and Read All the Books While You're PregnantThis relates to #1. Everything is a phase and it moves so fast. You go from one thing to another and you'd think you'd have time to research your parenting options and decide how you feel about different things but you guys it all happens so fast and if you're like most people you won't be getting much sleep so your brain isn't going to be working. I WISH that I had read a few parenting books on the big topics like sleep, and eating, and maybe a catch all first two years what to expect type of book while I was pregnant. Not that I think you can totally plan but I would have liked to know a few of the different approaches to the whole sleep thing and ideas to try BEFORE I was in the throws of extreme sleep deprivation. You think you'll have time since you'll be feeding them a lot but if you're like me you'll wish you had checked out some books sooner. I'd recommend taking a peek at things you think might come up through the first 2 years.
(photo courtesy of See Kate Sew)
5. You Don't Have to Be Paranoid of SleepI've already mentioned (and if you've been around here from a while you KNOW) we got terrible sleep while Teddy was a baby. Like until he was around 2. I'm a natural worrier and let me tell you nothing makes you worry more than the possibility that your baby is not safe. There are so many sad stories about babies dying in their sleep. Every year 3,500 babies while they are asleep, that's more than 10 times those that die in car accidents. I think almost all moms remember that first time their baby slept through the night mostly because we weren't asleep ourselves. We were all stressed that something might be wrong but not sure if we should check on the baby and risk waking him or her. I wish wish wish that I had an Owlet Baby Monitor when Teddy was an infant. I have a number of friends that have used it lately and I've been totally jealous. If you're not familiar with the device it is the only baby monitor that uses hospital technology—pulse oximetry—designed to alert you if your baby stops breathing. All that amazing technology is placed into a tiny, snuggly baby sock that the little one wears to bed. It's totally wireless and connects via bluetooth to a base station and Wi-Fi to any smartphone so you can view live vitals. I did not have many opportunities to sleep since my baby was a "bad sleeper". But even when he did actually sleep I was filled with anxiety that something would happen which made falling asleep (for the short periods that he was down) really hard. I think I would have slept so much better and easier if I had one of these to ease my worries!
6. Swim Diapers Don't Hold PeeIs your mind blown because mine was! I must have just been lucky because I put Teddy in swim diapers on the way to the pool MANY times. But it wasn't until he totally soaked his outfit at the children's museum, when he was almost 2, that I realized that swim diapers don't hold in liquid. That is how they keep from getting heavy in the water. They are just meant to keep poop out of the pool. I guess it makes sense in retrospect but really why didn't someone tell me this!!!? So there I told you.
(pool time with the cousins, he was SO small)
7. It's Easy to Mix Up Swim Diapers and Pull UpsSo this is a sillier one but really, why do swim diapers and pull ups have to look SO similar? Color and all. Let me tell you how you can tell the difference when you're in the water: the diaper will swell to about 10 times the size of normal, get heavy, and the absorbent beads can burst out of the diaper. I've been guilty of the mix up and been around to witness more than one other mom who managed to mix up the two diapers. If you pay attention when getting ready to swim you'll be fine but it's so easy just to go fast and mix them up.
8. You Might Want to Hold Off On Some GiftsEspecially if you receive a lot of newborn sized clothing you will probably be tempted to wash those puppies up and get them all cozy in a drawer but some babies are born too big for new born sizes. Maybe wash a few and wait to see just in case you want to return some of the itty bitty clothes. The same goes for toys and other gear. You might think you want it before baby is here but once you try it out it might not be your thing. Keep the packaging and gift receipts just in case.
9. The One Month Mark Is HardMaybe it's not exactly one month for everyone but there will be a time near the beginning where you think oh my gosh we've had this baby for a while now and it's still SO HARD what is going on. It makes those very first newborn days seem like cake because in comparison they were. You'll have less help, if you had visitors or people coming in, or if you or your partner partner that had baby leave and have to start working again. You'll just feel like you ought to be able to "do more" or that things should be easier but they aren't yet. But you know what you're probably all sleep deprived and it's had all that time to compound. But I promise it will get better. I just want to warn you that there is this point for most of us where it feels like it should have gotten better by now and it hasn't. Don't be discouraged that is totally normal and it's still coming it WILL get better.
10. Decide What You Want Your Hospital Visits to Look LikeThings happen fast (even if they happen really slowly) and you are so tired after giving birth and the hormones and emotions are raging. I really regret not telling (or having my husband tell) people to get out of the room. I had been up ALL NIGHT birthing a child with a super long pushing periodd and people were around and I could not rest. I just wanted piece and to be able to try to sleep. But I felt rude and selfish not to mention totally awkward getting up in my open flap gown all bloody and groggy crossing the room in front of people to go to the bathroom. But you know what everyone else could see the baby later. They could peek in for a quick hello but they did not need to be there in those first hours. I wish I had thought through that stuff before I was there and set some ground rules. In addition to the sleep I needed time to try and figure out nursing WITHOUT AN AUDIENCE. Related to the hospital visitors I really regret not taking my photographer friend up on her offer to come do some birth photos. She didn't push because you know I had just given birth but I wish that I had decided before I went in that that was just one of the things we were going to do because in the moment I felt disgusting, exhausted, and the idea of being photographed sounded horrible but now I feel like I really missed out.
11. You Get to Determine the Type of Parent You Want to BeIf you're not already getting bombarded with unsolicited advice from family, friends, acquaintances, and random strangers be prepared. For some reason a pregnant woman or really anyone with an infant is like a magnet for the "experts" to "share" their "advice". Some might actually be helpful, some might be well meaning, but others will be rude, obnoxious, and flat out wrong. Just remember you are the one who gets to decide how you want to parent. Even if it's not the same way all your friends and family have chosen it doesn't matter. Go the way your gut and your own research leads. You can even question the doctors and honestly I encourage you to do that if anything feels wrong check things out do research and ask them to explain their reasoning. There are SO many ways to parent that helps you keep your children safe and grow into awesome adults don't feel bullied into one way from other people. And remember you can change your mind and try different things out as you learn and experience more. See what works for you, your family, and this particular baby. Even within the same family different things might work for different kids. And above all make sure you let yourself enjoy your little ones. Now how about an awesome giveaway!
- (1) Owlet Baby Monitor ($249.99)
- (1) Kinsa Smart Ear Thermometer ($49.99)
- (1) Evenflo SensorSafe Car seat ($149.00)
- (1) Burley Solstice Jogger ($399.99)
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- I've been going to weekly appointments and everything seems good and on target.
- I've been eating less (as I mentioned) forgetting breakfast (hopefully that will change now) and then just feeling full faster. Plus I think I've got some heart burn going on so maybe we'll have a baby with some hair! Even so, somehow I'm still gaining lots of weight. The doctor keeps calling it water weight ummm okay let's hope I guess.
- My showers are over and we've bought the last of the stuff we for sure want before Toasty is here. It's really weird to see baby gear all around our house. I did my first of what I'm sure will be many many loads of baby laundry.
- With the help of a friend and MANY hours my upstairs (the studio and bedroom area, basically where I spend 90% of my home time) has been totally reorganized and sorted and room has been made for Toasty both in my work area and in the ginormous closet (it has a window, it's totally and upgrade from what Harry Potter lived in).
- Toasty is still a crazy moving machine. He loves to camp out right under my ribs. I don't believe the whole "they slow down" near the end thing.
- I didn't think it was possible but I feel even hotter. I've been outside in a t-shirt and waking up crazy hot at night needless to say sleep has been crummy.
- My doctor is out of town the next two weekends so I'm hoping and praying Toasty does not decide to come on one of the days he's gone.
- I've been getting really anxious about recognizing that I'm in labor. Everyone says "oh you'll know" but I have a crazy high pain tolerance. You know when you say I hope it isn't broken and everyone says "you'd know if you had a broken bone" well I've had at least 3 broken bones that I didn't know were broken until one I went in 2 weeks later because the bruising didn't go down and two when I had X-rays for other things and the doctor asked when I broke it before since he saw a healed break (umm yeah I didn't know it was broken before). So if you have any non-pain related descriptions of labor and contractions I'd love to hear them.
- But most of all we are all getting so excited to meet this little guy. It's really fun to see Daniel get more and more excited every day!
Thanks so much for Jimmy Dean for sponsoring this post and helping me get back on the breakfast wagon. I am definitely a new fan of the Jimmy Dean Meat Lovers Breakfast Bowls. Make sure to check out facebook, pinterest, twitter, and instagram!
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Necklace from Delicate Industry on Etsy I love it SOOOO much!
It's been a while so I thought I'd do a little pregnancy update. I am now 32 weeks. And I feel like it has completely flown by. This baby is going to be here SOON. We start our childbirth classes today. I'm a bit nervous. I'm normally a researcher but I have done minimal reading and looking things up (I think it's a combo of being prego after loss and infertility as well as know so much of that material is fear mongering). Plus I'm older and have know a lot of people to give birth and have babies so I don't feel completely ignorant about what's in store but I know we're going to get a lot of info and it's going to become even more real. I think it'll be fun to see how Daniel reacts to all the stuff ;)
- feeling more tired. My energy is just lower in the last few weeks, which I hear is normal.
- sleeping a lot more. I'm having a harder time getting to sleep and I think my quality of sleep is just a bit crummy so I've been "sleeping" a good 2-3 hours longer than I'm used to.
- feeling huge. I don't know why I did it but I weighed myself the other day. That was dumb. Yeah they weigh me at the doctors but they do it so fast and usually I'm not paying attention.
- trying to get a bit more organized and make room for a new person.
- excited for my baby showers (my friends and sister have one planned and my mom and MIL also are doing one together). Registering was a bit overwhelming PS thanks to all of you who gave awesome advice on the Rae Gun facebook page when I asked about what to register for.
- thinking I want to do some pregnancy pictures but not sure where to do them in the middle of snowy winter here in SLC. Let me know if you have any ideas!
- getting ready to go on "maternity leave" I have set a cut off date for all made to order items in my shop (that's pretty much most of my shop). I hope to have some ready to ship stuff listed after that but I'm not going to kill myself and I'm definitely going to take my time to get back into things after he's here. So, if you think you might want anything from my shop for this Spring (birthday parties, baby showers, etc.) please order before Jan. 24th.
- a moving machine.
- he was doing some weird rhythmic thing that made be a bit nervous but my friends all thought it was probably hiccups which made sense.
- he flipped out like flailing like a crazy person when I went through the car wash during an exceptionally loud portion of it.
- just how he's supposed to be according to the doctor.
- already spoiled. He's got a big old pile of fabric (not cheap mind you) and a good sized couple of gift cards to a super cute baby boutique.
- I'm 26 and a half weeks
- I just realized that we are getting close especially with the holidays it's going to go fast!
- We're not ready AT ALL. We have nothing. No really what do we need to get?
- I have my glucose test next appointment which I hope I pass because I still can't drink water without throwing up and I don't want to be told to drink stuff with aspertane in it.
- We have a couple names that we don't hate. I think we've given up on any hope that we're going to love a name. We won't be sharing the name until he's born. It's way too hard for us to agree on a name and people have no self control in telling you they hate the name or that they know some awful evil person with the name so we will not be risking getting back to no names.
- I think my mom and MIL have been secretly buying baby stuff.
- I have bought baby socks and one onesie. I thought I hated the selection of boy clothes but Daniel makes it even worse. He's declared a hate for anything with words on it, skulls, and bow ties. So I guess this baby is doomed to wearing stripes stripes and more stripes.
- We call the baby Toasty. Short for Toaster Strudel because he makes the bed so stinking hot!
- Toasty likes to have dance parties at about 1 am. And he dances like a wild beast. Luckily I'm not usually in bed until later any ways.