I did the stupidist thing in the world yesterday and I’m completely traumatized. So here’s the deal. We’ve been trying to nap train. Teddy is a crap sleeper in general still waking up a few times at night but at least at night I can lay him down and he sleeps for a good 3-4 hours. If he wakes up before then we give him a binky and he cries for a minute or two and goes back down. And I’m sure most of you are saying, “Wait isn’t he almost one and that’s the ‘good’ part of his sleeping? Don’t you want to bash your head into a wall?” And I would say, “Yes, yes I do want to bash my head into a wall.” And to keep from doing that I will post funny baby sleep memes whilst I tell you my tale.
So what happened yesterday? I sat in the room with Teddy to see if that would “help him fall asleep”. You see this is after two weeks of trying to let him cry it out at nap time. After all CIO worked for night. It just took him 2 days and he was going down no problem. But naps are a different story. This is the 4th time I’ve tried to let him cry it out for naps and I vowed that I would be consistent and stick it out. But you know what it’s not working. I don’t care what people say SOMETIMES IT DOESN’T WORK!
The two weeks were interrupted by illness. So it’s really been a week of nap time routine, him snuggling up during the song (just like at bed time) but instead of the roll over and sleep it’s a full on mad angry hysteria. After a while it’s a weaker cry with a minute head down and then up again standing and crying. He did this for 40-70 minutes EVERY time (usually about 55 minutes). then he fell asleep for 20 minutes. It DID NOT get better. My once happy boy was cranky all day. Falling down, bonking. So we decided to call it quits. We weren’t wimps we freaking let our baby cry for almost an hour twice a day. Having witnessed CIO work for night I don’t think it’s extreme but you could tell there was progress.
A friend said she tried a thing where she stayed in the same room while the kid settled themselves so I thought well I’ll try that. And let me tell you it was torture. At least the other times the cries weren’t full blast or consistent. This was 50 minutes of him totally not getting why I wasn’t helping. I laid right by the side of the pack and play trying to get him to lay next to me. And now I have PTSD like seriously every time I hear him cry I get really stressed and anxious and my heart gets all racey. And guess what he’s a strong willed baby so he is going to cry.
What am I supposed to do? He’s big now, soon his Magic Sleep Suit won’t fit so I don’t want to put him back in there. And I’d go back to holding him for every nap and just accept that I’ll never get anything done but I feel like I need to teach him how to sleep. People say they lay down by their kids to help them fall asleep but don’t their kids crawl away or start trying to play? People say they rock them down and them put them down. Well that’s just not an option Teddy wakes up INSTANTLY and always has. You wouldn’t even believe how many people told me to just to do quiet time. Tell him he doesn’t have to sleep but no talking. He’s 11 months old he’s not in the room “talking” or noisily playing with his toys. He’s crying and tired and doesn’t know how to fall asleep. And it’s not like he wears himself out and then has a good nap. IF he falls asleep he wakes up after 20 minutes. I’m not exaggerating, we logged ALL OF IT.
For now we’re back to holding him although this time without his sleep suit since we know we’ll be forced to give it up soon. But if you had a bad DAYTIME sleeper and something BESIDES CRY IT OUT worked for you I’d love to hear. I know people say that I’ve got to do it now because it only get’s harder but you know what else they say? They say they miss just holding their babies, they miss when their boys would snuggle with them. So for now I’m just going to enjoy snuggling him for a little longer. I’ll keep trying to see if he’ll let me put him down and other things but I’m taking my friend’s advice and doing what it takes to stay sane.
I found all the images and the little baby letter on Pinterest. Unfortunately any that included sources were clearly not the original sources. If you know of who I can give credit to for these sillies please let me know.
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